The Long Distance Relationship

   When we hear that a couple live 11 time zones apart,  and can afford to come together only once in long while ., It's natural to offer sympathy for the pain. We should more fairly envy them for their luck.  Whatever our longings may indicates,  it's simply a lot easier to love when someone isn't there. Far from an unfortunate necessity,  living apart should be recognised  for what it truly is:  An advantage.

             So much goes right when we live a long way away. Online, or over the phone,  we never assume that the other person should be able to read our minds without us ever having explained what's actually in them. Who accept that we will have to describe our days as well as our desires in words and pictures.  We can't help but do that thing that holds couple together:  Communicate,

             We accept that the other can leave without us, and therefore make the effort to be the sort of people that someone would freely choose to be with. We work at it. We can benefit from what jealousy otherwise prevents us from admitting how much it helps us to feel like desirable,  potent people, to be able to go out and flirt with someone else for a while without too many questions being asked. In other words, how profoundly loyal a whiff of surface disloyalty helps us to be. A part we appreciate is a strong quirk of our minds,  but we onely haven't noticed what's missing. The money do not have,  the weather we long for,  the car we don't yet own. Yet,  once anything is securely in our possession,  it disappears. We only see in the sense of notice what isn't there.  The best way to lose ownership of something is to own it. And the surest way to forget your partner exists may be to ensure they're beside you every night.  When we're apart,  we can sample the gentle suffering of loneliness over the intense rage of suffocation.  We never have to find out how much it can tarnish love to be with someone who has a different idea of a cutlery drawer or the correct way to suspend a towel.  Too often,  when we cohabiting,  we locate the difficulty of our relationship in a very erroneous place.  We think that it's the wrong person we've mistakenly got together with.  Rather from keeping on mind,  that we're with a pretty right person trying to do an exceptionally tricky things:  Share a home
            It may in the end,  strangely, just be a lot easier to love than to share a bathroom.  Our love stories are suffering from a mistaken cultural hierarchy.  Just as the book is often wrongly thoughts more important than the eassy,  so the live-in relationship is to readily assumed to be superior to the long-range version.  And yet,  without ever meaning to do so, the long distance relationship may simply, despite all its evident challenges,  throw up some of the absolutely ideal conditions for true love to thrive.  We should be wise to imbibe the few of the lessons life normally only teaches us when they're in Nepal and you're  in Sydney, and carefully import them into our lives.  Even with the people unfortunate enough to be right next to us. 

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